Anonymous asked: Would you suggest some prom looks for males? I'd like to stand out and express myself, but it seems like there aren't a lot of options for colts.
Ah, in this day and age it is hard for colts to flare in formal wear. I do understand your concern!
Obviously tie colors. Subtly, cuff-links.
Vests are one expression of your unique flare. They come in many different colors and patterns.
Go to my archived post, and there is, towards the end, a wonderful picture of a double-vest outfit with a dress shirt. It is one example of the different creative liberties you can take with formal wear.
Get creative. Adapt your outfit to suit your personality while keeping it classy. Restraints in fashion do not inhibit creativity, they merely give us a direction in which we can express it.
necessary-glitter asked: My fashion-challenged brother has asked for me to come with him to the mall to help him pick things out-how do I push him towards things he'll look good in (but he's not too enthusiastic about) without seeming bossy?
Ask him to try outfits on. If he has asked for your advice, he is more open to your opinion, but your best bet is to prove to him how fabulous he can be. Get him to try things on then point out to him why it’s so wonderful.
Anonymous asked: Rarity, how do I learn to love my appearance? My self-esteem is beginning to get troublingly low. I can rarely look in mirrors without wincing now. I always find at least one thing wrong with myself and I don't know how to stop.
Self-esteem is always a deeper issue than people like to believe.
I know I say, “Love the body you have,” like it’s easy, but know I understand how desperately difficult it can be.
You can talk to people you trust about how you feel. You can seek the guidance of a counselor. You know yourself and your needs better than I do, so you will have to be the one to make that call.
A simple thing you can do is for every negative thing you find, force yourself to find two things you do like. Write them down. Post them on your mirror. Remind yourself of them every morning.
A lot of our thoughts are formed by habits and patterns, so creating new patterns is a helpful tool in overcoming negative feelings.
But more often than not, problems with self-esteem are much more deeply rooted inside us, which is why counseling can be helpful. The more we get to know ourselves, the more we know how to overcome ourselves. We are imperfect creatures (though I might be an exception), and we make mistakes at our core without even realizing it.
You know yourself. I have given you the tips I can think of, but you ultimately will have to know yourself to know how to best help yourself, or if you are unable to help yourself (which is often the case), know who to go to or where to go to seek help. If you have any further questions, please ask <3 And you are welcome to message me and request a private conversation. That goes for any of you ponies, actually.
It seems prom is coming up for a lot of you fillies and colts; here’s some tips for a pleasant evening:
- Smile, be confident you look your best.
- Fillies, don’t compare your dress to other fillies. Your dress is your dress, and how beautiful you are is you. Your beauty is not dependent on other people.
- Colts, don’t abandon your date or move in on your best friend’s date.
- enjoy yourself. Prom only comes once (or I suppose twice for a few), so make the most of that night.
Anonymous asked: Dear Princess Rarity, I find myself struggling lately to get up the required motivation to get things done. I'll be about to write an essay and then go off fan faff about doing something else. What do you do to get motivated/stay on track?
Motivation can always be hard, even about things you are passionate about. Sometimes I love a project so much, I’ll spend hours at the drawing table, but put off actually creating the piece. Procrastination is a horrid enemy of a creator.
Some good motivators are setting goals for yourself. Promise yourself to get x, y, and z done by the end of the day. Maybe even give yourself a reward, such as, “If I finish one essay, then I can watch one episode of ponies.”
Another fabulous motivator that people don’t really think about is exercise! A lot of the time, ponies will say, “I have so much to do, I don’t have time to work out.” But actually, a half hour work-out gets your blood flowing and your brain firing and can help keep you on task! You will likely end up getting more work done by taking that half hour break. Or even just stretching will do the same thing.
Get up early. Don’t hit that snooze button. It can be so tempting to sleep in just five more minutes, but when your very first decision of the day is procrastination, it’s going to affect the rest of your day.
I hope these tips help. I understand a lot of you are in a stressful period right now. Good luck everyone with exams~
Anonymous asked: Hello Miss Rarity! I need some advice please, people call me ungirly because of my tastes you know, in music, clothes they even treat me like a boy, but I just like simple things! How can I be a little more girly without looking like "another girl who doesn't leave the house without makeup"? Because I even like my face natural looking! thank you!
Being “fab” isn’t about necessarily being “girly.”
Being fabulous is about being the best version of you that you can be.
So if you like to be natural, don’t wear make-up. But also, don’t make the assumption that girls who do wear make-up are “a dime a dozen.” A wise pony once told me, “I’ve met plenty of ordinary people, but none of them are unimportant.” Wearing make-up doesn’t make you like everyone else. Choosing not to wear make-up doesn’t make you unique. What makes you unique is your heart, your character within. What makes you fabulous is expressing that character externally.
So if that is all-natural, then don’t stress about wearing make-up. Or, wear subtle make-up. Just a little touch of eye-liner, subtle tones that accent your eyes and skin. Using browns is a good way to keep your face natural while still wearing make-up to highlight your gorgeous face.
Ultimately, be you, and make you look good. Because you do look good, you just need to accent yourself. Fashion isn’t about becoming something you aren’t; it’s about expressing how beautiful you already are.
Anonymous asked: Hello, I know this isn't a fashion question or anything but you seem to be one of the best ponies I can go to at the moment. Every week for the past month or so a group of friends and I get together to play a table top game and I've noticed that one of the stallions seems to like staring at me and I often catch his eyes. I think there might be a mutual.. 'crush' going on. Any advice on what I could do?
Not to worry; I love answering non-fashion questions as much as I love fashion questions!
Trying to guess a mutual attraction is always a difficult situation. Colts can be rather dense when it comes to hints, and if they do figure it out, they are often incredibly shy and nervous. So one option is to just be honest, up front with him. But some times you need a chase, and so you just have to convince him to stallion up and ask you out. And if he doesn’t catch the subtle hints, just try to get more obvious until it does.
Another option is to talk to friends you trust. Ask their opinion. Sometimes you can be so involved in your own feelings, you’re missing out or misinterpreting someone else’s.
I hope those help, darling!